I have watched and listened to many people over the last few days that has led me to form the opinion that certain words are overused, and used with no sincerity or knowledge of meaning behind them.
Innocent: People use this word to describe others or their own actions. If an action is questionable, which is the only reason someone would have to use ‘innocent’ to describe it, it is hardly innocent. It may be harmless, asinine, thoughtless, or sometimes even more sinister – but hardly innocent.
Juvenile: I am sorry but when someone over the age of 18 does something incredibly stupid, it is just that – incredibly stupid. Many juveniles don’t act that way until they see adults being stupid. let’s stop using a term to describe adolescents to describe adults behaving badly.
Handicapped: Just because an individual has alternative ways of capably accomplishing something does not make them handicapped. However, there are some who may be considered juvenile (see above) that are just incredibly stupid, which in my mind, makes them more handicapped than some who must use alternative ways to achieve a means to and end.
Difficult: All things are difficult until you learn them. We learned to sit, eat, walk and talk – we can learn just about anything. It is the wanting to learn and do the best we can that is difficult. Everything else is just work.
Income: I keep hearing this word, but have not seen an ‘income’ without the ‘outgo’ that goes with it, starting with a large percentage of my ‘income’ outgoing to the IRS. We should probably call it, residuals.
Insurance: Now here is a word that throws me. It should really be called ‘assurance’, because if you don’t have it you are assured to feel screwed (especially with the new laws) when you need it, and if you have it, you can be assured that you will be more stressed than you were before you needed it for health, home, or vehicle reasons. I believe big Pharma loves this mechanism that happens to keep our blood pressure raised and minds confused because it allows them more government funding for research. Funding of course that comes out of our ‘residuals’ (see above).
Respect: Some people say they deserve this, but have never earned it. This is, in my mind, one right you are not born with. Sometimes you can earn it quickly, but most times it takes work and if you have it, you should never get comfortable with it, because if you act juvenile (see above) you can lose it faster than you got it. I also believe you must have it yourself ,for yourself before someone else can share theirs with you.
Employment: I can’t tell you how many times I personally have heard people say they want a job, but then don’t ‘show up’ to do the job. By showing up, I do mean physically and mentally showing up. I have also personally heard people, even in this economy, say things like ‘that’s not my job’. I believe, that if you want to work and you receive a paycheck for legitimate tasks, and you happen not to appreciate the tasks assigned to you, you have three basic choices. Everyone does. One – do it with a smile. Two – do it and ask for a raise. Three – move on and allow someone who appreciates the opportunity to earn a paycheck to earn it. Sitting at your job, not doing your job, hurts everyone. Not just you and your employer, not their clients, but also the person who could be there, earning a wage and taking responsibility for their lives. So it is not employment, but work. Employment is using your abilities to get the task done in your job, which you do get a paycheck to do.
Love: This word most of all is over used. People, especially the young, use the phrase ‘I Love You’ so easily and freely, they lose the whole idea behind the words.
I believe that when you love someone those words should come from the heart and from the knowing. It comes from wanting to be with that person, caring for that person, being there in times of need for that person, and them there for you, yet being able to be apart without a suspicious thought rolling around your head when you are. Loving someone for who they are, beyond that ‘honeymoon’ stage that young couples have.
An extension of overuse of ‘I love you” is ‘I want to share my life with you‘. When in that honeymoon stage of ‘love”, people do not share lives, they share time. They forget, or do not know, or do not realize that sharing a life together means sharing the work, the play, the bills, the responsibilities, the friends, and even the time alone, apart from each other. When you can do that and still lose your breath when thinking about the other person, that is love.
I do believe that when you love someone, truly love someone, those words should come freely. It should never be something that you can hold back. It should just overwhelm you to where the words come out, at the most peculiar times. I believe that if you love someone, it is the first thing you want to say in the morning and the last thing you say at night – just because, if you lose the next moment to say it, you are fully aware that they knew exactly how you felt. But it should not be something that is given to every person you know so easily. It takes away from the meaning.
These are just a few of my pet peeves of overused / misused words. Do you have any? Who knows, maybe others share them with you. I would love to hear them.